I’ve never used that word, for exactly those reasons (also, I just don’t like it).
"butthurt" has no connection to rape, nor is it homophobic.
I’ve seen this on tumblr a few times and I’m here to dispel any claims that the term “butthurt” has ties to homophobia and rape.
What does butthurt mean?
Butthurt is internet speak for “you overreacted to a normal and/or harmless response”. Personally, I’ve seen it used in this context:
Anon 1: (Something stupid and uneducated, may be emotional)
Anon 2: (Corrects them, usually not emotional)
Anon 1: (Stupid retort that’s over-dramatic and unnecessary, usually to a point of being unintentionally funny
Anon 2: >butthurt.jpg
Let’s get a citation from a source on memes:
”Butthurt is an online slang term used to describe a strongly negative or overemotional response. It is used to draw attention to a person who shows signs of being irritated due to a perceived insult, an unfavorable situation, or a lack of decent communication. On occasions, it can be also used to describe unreasonable users behaviors without an apparent explanation.” - Know Your Meme(.com)
Where/When did butthurt come/originate from?
"Online, one of the earliest archived mentions of “butthurt” appeared in a 1998 commentposted on the website of Swiss surrealist painter H. R. Giger." - Know Your Meme(.com)
Excerpt from the comment:
”Hollywood has tossed Giger for more talented artists, and even those artist who can emulate his style, without the tears and the hurt butts…”
Usage and spread of butthurt:
"The term was first added to the Online Slang Dictionary as a hyphenated word on January 29th, 1999. The original definition stated it was anger caused by “a small slight or friendly insult.” The term was first added to Urban Dictionary in December 2001, and has since gained a total of 32 definitions with an additional 9 under “butt-hurt” and 19 under “butt hurt.” The term was named the Urban Word of the Day on May 2nd, 2006. It was added to Wiktionary in August 2007.
On YouTube, videos related to the term have been uploaded since as early as 2005, which mainly consists of butthurt behaviors found in online gaming or personal messages addressing those who feel that way. As of June 2012, there are more than 7100 video results for “butthurt.” Additionally, a Facebook group titled U Butthurt Bro? was created in 2011, which has gained more than 5000 likes by June 2012.” - Know Your Meme.(com)
I really hate to do this in a public(ish) environment, but in order for tumblr to take people seriously, sometimes you need to state your credentials. I’ve been using 4chan since 2005. Constantly. Almost every day. (Well there goes my attempts to hide my power levels.) My mother used to browse the SA (Something Awful) forums for hours at a time; naturally I read them when she wasn’t around, and I’ve recently picked up the habit of going back to GBS.
That being said, I have never seen the term butthurt in reference to rape or homophobic statements or behaviors. Butthurt doesn’t have any ties to rape or homophobia, none whatsoever. I’m not sure where someone got the idea that it did. Maybe they read someone using the term incorrectly? That’s definitely a possibility, but aside from those few who don’t know what they’re talking about, butthurt doesn’t reference rape to any degree.
Compare it to the phrase “what a pain in the ass”. Does that have rape or homophobic connotations? No.
If we dig further into the accusations of homophobia, let’s also take into account that heterosexual couples, bisexual couples, lesbian couples, transgender couples, etc. can also partake in anal sex. It would be a stab at non vaginal sex (if it was a stab at someone’s personal choices) if anything. This negates the possibility that it makes light of rape, as it is not tied to sexual practice in any way.
The point of this post was to educate, not ridicule. If someone wants to respond with examples that it was used in a homophobic manner, feel free.